Own Today By Feeling Confident

Your Body is Not You

Your body is not you. Your body is a part of you, but it’s not all of you. You are body and soul. Body + soul = you.
Alright, I think you get my message. Are you rolling your eyes at me yet?

I talked about body image in my first post, especially since I think about my body and how it looks a lot. In fact, there’s a rare moment when I am not thinking about my body. Aren’t we sort of trained to think about our bodies all the time though? I mean, how many times do you scroll through your Instagram feed and see countless bodies showing off muscle, or half-naked bodies in bathing suits, or people in skin tight clothes, or the number of calories someone burned during a workout? Maybe you post pictures of yourself to show off your body and physical progress?

While I think there’s nothing wrong with that (I do it too, and it can be a great motivator and way to receive validation!), I just want to remind you that you’re so much more than that (I know I need reminding…). What makes you a beautiful and rich person is not how much you weigh, your skin color, your ability or disability, or your sexual experiences or non-experience — what makes you beautiful and rich is your personality, your interests, your hobbies, your passions, your love, your SOUL! There is so much good inside of you, not just on the outside.

Own today by yes, owning your body…and by loving the other parts of you. How can we do that? Here are a few ideas:

  • Take time away from social media and body-obsessed websites/tv shows/movies/commercials
  • Develop passions – writing, singing, drawing, reading, the list goes on…
  • Talk to someone you have not spoken to in a while
  • Seek out therapy, if you find yourself struggling and needing help loving yourself – there are options for you!

I know none of this is easy. This is coming from a girl who weighs herself almost every day, feels guilty for eating delicious meals, and thinks about how fat she must look when she’s talking to people. None of this is easy, but it’s possible. It’s possible to love yourself.

What I would love to hear from you in the comments:

  • Do you agree or disagree with me? I feel like society is sort of body/body-image obsessed. Do you think so too? Why or why not?
  • How does your own body image affect the way you feel about yourself?
  • How does your own body image affect your relationships?
  • How does your body image now compare to the body image you had during your childhood?
  • What do you love about yourself that is not related to your body or physical abilities?



  • Anna

    You are absolutely correct. There are other things about ourselves that we should focus on and not simply how we look. People have many talents and skills that make them beautiful inside and out. Often, low self esteem, prevents them from notecing how good and kind they are…and it’s not about their appearance, but how they support others, understand struggles, give good sound advice, truly love those around them, offer to help, volunteer their time and so on. Appearance on the outside it’s just a shell, what’s good and beautiful is what’s on the inside. It’s just like peeling an orange. If you bite the skin of an orange it will not taste so good, but if you peel it and taste the inside its delicious. So, bottom line, looks do not define the person. Being on the chunky side myself, I love my sense of humor, my crochet skills that gives me the ability to be creative, and the ability to listen and hopefully give good advice to others. I would not change ME for others, but I would, as I am, try to be healthier and get more exercise in my daily routine, but again, for ME, not because society tells me I should look a certain way. Be happy, be well!

  • Kayla

    Society is DEFINITELY body obsessed, a fact that I think we as a society are increasingly aware of given the number of body-positive movements and campaigns that I feel like I see more now than I did when I was younger.

    My feelings towards my self-image have fluctuated over the years, and while it’s still not great, it’s something I’m always working on/thinking about. I think a good start is learning how to accept compliments, since for so many of us with body issues, our instinct is to negate or deflect them. So by instead saying (even if you don’t mean it at first) “You know what, thank you for the compliment” we can start the process of internalizing those compliments instead of just brushing them aside.

    Personally, I like my empathy. It might not always be overt, but I think a lot about other people’s feelings and try to be considerate/warm when I can.

    • Elena

      For sure, Kayla! Like you said, it can really make a difference to accept those compliments, rather than say, “I don’t belive you,” “That’s not true,” or “I don’t know how you think that,” or some other comment that might be off-outting for both you and the compliment-giver. And I’m really glad that you like your empathy. Empathy is such a beautiful quality that not everyone has…but I can say that I do find you a very calming, warm presence, and I am so happy any time I see you! Thank you for commenting 💕

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