I’m someone who apologizes a lot. Like a lot.
I accidentally touch your foot?
I bumped into a wall?
I’m sorry, wall.
I ask you how you’re doing?
Most of the time when I apologize, it doesn’t really make sense. I notice that I apologize more when I’m having a bad day. The worse I feel about myself that day, the more I apologize, the more I want to go away and hide somewhere and stop bothering everybody. The reality is…I’m probably not bothering every body, maybe someone here and there, but that’s life! People bother people…that does not mean I have to beat myself up constantly or apologize every two seconds, especially for things that are not wrong nor my fault. (Of course, apologize if you really hurt someone or do something morally/ethically wrong. Though, sometimes it’s hard for us to see the difference.)
You may have heard this before, but something we extremely apologetic people may need to start doing is saying, “Thank you,” instead of “I’m sorry.”
Here’s a cute comic that we can look at together…
Source: The Job Network
We need to own today by bringing ourselves UP, rather than bringing ourselves down. The words we use in every interaction can either ruin our self-esteem or strengthen it. Let’s try to thank ourselves for all of our abilities, for the friendships we have, for our sweetness and thoughtfulness. Yes, we may have our extreme apologetic moments, but it’s not like we cannot rise above those negative thoughts. It’s not like we shouldn’t exist. It’s not like we are constantly bothering people. It’s not like we don’t appreciate what others do for us. It’s not like we aren’t incredible people who have so much to offer.
Own today by saying thank you.
Thank you for reading.